all you who are have been, are broken hearted, or who will be.

life-and-bliss:

this is a rant. and I love you. and this is not to put anyone down or make anyone feel guilty. I am just so torn up and people don’t understand.

this is a major rant. sorry. I hope God works through this.

i weep for you. my heart is wrung out and stretched and bruised for you. not only does someone else hurt you, but then you go and hurt yourself. you believe so many lies. lies that say that you have to be perfect, that you aren’t good enough, that it’s all about what the other person gives you or how they make you feel, or that relationships are easy and about happiness and security and hiding your insecurities and faults. and guess what - they’re not. love works. but not the love you know. you only know the love that is temporary, that is a fix, that makes you feel good about yourself and that gives you what you want, and is completely conditional and subjective. the love that I know works, is the love that is given when it isn’t deserves. when love is a choice. when it doesn’t matter what you’ve done or what you’re doing, or how you look, or how much growing you haven’t done. love chooses to serve, even though it’s not deserved. love washes faults, it scrubs them. it doesn’t hide things and pretend things are okay. it chooses to work hard. chooses to actually lay all desires and wants for yourself, and put the needs of another first. when you know that grace and forgiveness and patience and humility and kindness and compassion are more important, and you act on that, that’s when you’re loving. love that is selfish isn’t real. stop believing all the bullshit you’re being told. get over yourself for just a second and realize that things don’t work because you’re both selfish and would rather choose to have a temporary happiness and satisfaction from the performance of someone else, than work hard to show them that they matter, no matter what. that you care. if you can’t do this one thing, and commit to choosing every single day to lay yourself down and serve that other person, you should seriously reconsider being in any relationship until you can start working towards that.

people get hurt too easily, because we put ourselves higher than others and forget to actually love how we’re supposed to.

please please start loving yourselves, because you are wonderful people, and deserve the best. I really do love you all.

I’m so sorry you’re hurting.

word sister.